I’ll soon be 25 and still haven’t managed to finish uni due to extenuating financial reasons my family put me into before I was 18 haha.
Grandma died in early 2021 and yea, took me abt a year to be able to laugh out loud again and I still struggle with smiling on pictures n stuff. Planning on getting a Monarch Butterfly tattoo in her honour bc we were gonna get one together before she died and then she chickened out.
Was supposed to get a job permit (I’m a foreigner living in another country) over a year ago and GUES THE FUCK WHAT??? the legal assistant I paid to a year ago told me just yesterday that his mentor (the one giving his legal power for everything, will explain if needed) PLAYED DEAD AND MADE A PUBLIC POST ABOUT HIS FUNERAL AND THE AUTHORITIES SAW THAT AND DELETED MY CASE FROM THE WORK MINISTRY. The bastard didn’t tell me anything for the year he was supposedly processing everything and I had to chew him out over the phone until he told me everything.
*he now re-submitted everything, and I’m supposed to get it in abt 5 months*
ONTO GOOD NEWS
I have been in a relationship with C since Oct. 2018, been living together for more than a year now, and we’re getting a house together (under their name bc I’m hillariously inellegible for ANY sort of loans or mortgages). We’re expecting news from the real estate agency so we can sign the final docs and get our keys.
Along with that, we’ve been in a poly relationship with a wonderful guy from the UK, J, for almost 2 years. He’s come to visit us once (for a whole month) and we spent Christmas and New Year’s together at his place.
While at his place, I got a daith piercing (very pretty) and C got their ears pierced (looks very cute with them hehe). Sadly, I had to get my daith out bc I had to take and emergency CATscan and the piercing was too fresh to replace jewelery for a silicone one (and it was 3am when I got the scan, too lmao).
No worries abt the scan tho. Been having chronic, debilitating migraines since I was 19. Never paid them much attention bc no drs would take them seriously. CAT came out normal and neurologist put me on some new treatment to help prevent them (not working tho haha)
Good news is: if they put me under disability, I’ll get 25% plane ticket discounts and meds, so I guess that’s good reward from life, considering I really cannot even keep a job for more than 2 months bc of the migraines.
ANYWHO
Once C and I get all the pertaining docs for the house, we can move in right away and abt a month after that, I’ll go stay with J for 6 months (stayed 3 last time).
My cats (Alcaparra and Oliva) are now 3 and 4 years old, respectively. They are super pampered, and I plan on taking them with me once we move to the UK with J EVENTUALLY.
I’m very excited abt having our own place, where I can use a drill at 3am or whenever I want nyehehehehe.
Since I’m not working (for legal and medical reasons), I mostly do lil housewife chores like cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, feeding the cats, doing dishes, meal-prepping, and running errands.
Things are still far from perfect, and I’m struggling a lot with my self-value without a job. I’m very lucky to have kind and understanding partners who are willing to take care of me and let me take care of them in return. Talking with friends also helps a lot, even if I have lacked the social energy to be able to consistently hang out with them for more than 3 years.
That’s it for the almost-quarter-of-century life update!










